DAOS-18381 ddb: properly transfer ddb cmdline options

[Nasf-Fan]

The db_path maybe not contained inside the vos_path parameter, especially under md-on-ssd mode. Related go interfaces need to properly transfer cmdline option db_path from control plane to the lower ddb utils.

The patch also adds more check for the vos pool open and close status before real VOS operation.

Features: control recovery
Allow-unstable-test: true

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[github-actions]

Ticket title is 'ddb rm_pool failed to initialize sysdb under md-on-ssd mode'
Status is 'In Review'
Labels: 'md_on_ssd,scrubbed_2.8'
https://daosio.atlassian.net/browse/DAOS-18381

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